When we find
it difficult to forgive ourselves directly, we subconsciously attract other
people to forgive instead, which has the same result. By forgiving the people
that make us feel angry or guilty, we are really just forgiving ourselves,
because they are us. When we reject someone by choosing not to forgive them,
we're trying to separate them from ourselves, which is impossible.
The only way
out is forgiveness. How do we forgive? By letting go, by releasing that
emotional tension, by not trying to be separate from that other person, by
choosing peace, harmony, and service, and by recognizing that everyone makes
mistakes when they're young.
Internally
we think: “It's ok. It's all good. I choose to let this go now, and be at peace
with myself.”
We remember
that whatever happened in the past doesn't matter because it's all just me, and
I'm learning. In reality, there's no one else out there and this is all just a
dream.